Wednesday, December 11, 2013

it was going to be our turn...

today, the high court ruled that the australian capital territory's recent legislation for same sex marriages were unconstitutional.

i'm gutted for all the couples who got married on the weekend, and didn't even get to have a full week as husband and husband, or wife and wife, before having their unions dissolved.

i'm deeply saddened by the australian attitude to the queer community that this decision is symptomatic of.

but mostly, i'm devastated because it was our turn.

sj and i are celebrating out tenth anniversary in april, and we were going to go to canberra and get married.

we'd booked a fantastic celebrant.

one of our dear friends sisters is making us matching rings that have now been demoted from wedding bands to anniversary gifts.

it was going to be a secret ceremony in nara park, that only our mothers and three closest friends knew about. then we were going to come home and have a big anniversary party with all our friends and family, that would have turned out to be a surprise wedding reception.

we were going to have the bouquets grown and made by my friend lindsey.

i was going to wear a blush lace tea dress.

we were finally going to have the same surname as each other. the same as our son.



... and we were going to be married...



i should have something more articulate to say about this. something more analytical. more political.
but right now i'm just heartbroken, and this is all i've got.

still a family.


Tuesday, December 10, 2013

christmas cards

i just thought i'd share our 2013 christmas cards. i debated over whether to take a family picture and use that, but this seemed more appropriate for us...



i took the photo of arty's hand print with instagram, then had 4X4 inch cards printed by printstagram*. it was completely straightforward, and comparatively cost effective. i'm really happy with the results.



they all went out a couple of days ago. i love posting a big fat pile of letters - it feels so satisfying.



christmas really has begun!

(*n.b. this is not a sponsored post, i'm jut sharing my experience)

Saturday, December 7, 2013

a tradition

last year, for arty's first christmas, we started a family tradition. arty chose a present to give to a needy child the same age as him, and placed it under the wishing tree. he was only 11 months old, and didn't understand what he was doing, but it was the start of something.
even though he's still quite young to understand, i tried to explain the idea to him this year. i said that we were going to pick a present for a kid whose grown ups couldn't buy toys for them. a toy for kid who really needed one.
he thought about this, and then i let him roam around the toy section for a while til he found something he really liked (a helicopter). when he showed it to me, i said "shall we give this to the other kid? the one who needs a present?" he said yes, and then immediately went in search of other children in the shop and started trying to give it to them.


after confusing several other children by trying to force them to take his helicopter, i led him over to the wishing tree, and explained that this was where we left the presents for the other kids, and that's exactly what he did.
i was so proud of how willing he was to give away something that he so obviously would have loved to play with himself.
arty's growing up with a great deal of privilege, so i want to take as many opportunities as possible to foster generosity, gratitude and kindness in him. i think this family tradition is a step in the right direction.

Friday, December 6, 2013

family noms: bananaberry swirls



bananaberry swirls


ingredients:

3/4 cup mixed berries (i used raspberries and blueberries, but any combo will do!)
1/2 large banana
natural yoghurt to top up


method:
  • place berries in a microwave for about 1 minute, remove, stir, then microwave for a further minute.
  • berries should now look like runny jam. set aside to cool.
  • in a separate bowl, mash your banana thoroughly
  • once berries have cooled, spoon alternating layers of berries, yoghurt, and banana into your icy pole moulds.
  • with a skewer or a chop stick, give each one a little stir about - you're not aiming to combine the ingredients, just give them a little swirl.
  • freeze overnight, then eat.

these made a nice change from the fruit juice icy poles we've been having so far. arty liked the creaminess of the yoghurt.