Saturday, May 12, 2012

on dummies

s and i were ambivalent about dummies before arty was born. we weren't anti, but we weren't going out and buying any either. we figured we'd wait and see.
in the early days in hospital, when we were having a bit of a tricky time getting the hang of breastfeeding, arty was getting quite distressed by the process. he was hungry, and we couldn't get him latched on and feeding efficiently. he would get so upset, and in the end his frustrated crying was stopping him from even attempting to feed.
one of the midwives suggested that we give him our litte finger to suck on when he got this upset, because the physical act of suckling is very soothing to babies. it worked instantly, and really helped us calm him and get on with learning to feed.
but then we found that we were sticking our fingers in his mouth six or seven times a day, and we couldn't always be sure hat they were as clean as we'd have liked them to be. we decided that using a dummy would be more hygienic.


arty now uses a dummy regularly. and i'm totally cool with that. plenty of people advise against them for a broad range of reasons from babies not being able to settle without them, to nipple confusion, but these haven't been problems for us.
importantly, we don't use the dummy in place of other forms of comfort, but it is one tool that often goes well with a cuddle, a song, and some reassuring words.

6 comments:

  1. Oh yes we love a dummy here! Sometimes when feeding her she gets upset with the milk flow...she just wants to suck with me milk. So I pop a dummy in but hold her like she is feeding and she really loves that.

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    1. how great is it that you have such good supply!? but it must be hard when it's all too fast for the wee petal. i'm glad the dummy helps!

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  2. Dummies- one of those funny things, aren't they! Before I had Lior people would just tell me how bad dummies are, and then now that he's here people keep telling me how good dummies are!

    We're tried it a few times with Lior, but he doesn't really take to it. Glad Arty likes his though- it's good to have something else to calm them, especially when you're out!

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    1. i guess they're like almost everything else to do with pregnancy and parenting - everyone's got so many opinions!
      luckily we're smart enough and (usually) strong enough to trust our instincts and do what works for us and our babies x

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  3. Oh I wish either of my girls would have taken a dummy. I remember desperately trying to force my first, very unsettled, colicky and generally distressed little baby to take a dummy. Nothing would sooth her, breastfeeding would work while she fed, but then she would immediately go back to screaming. I so would have loved another way to comfort her and to give myself a chance to catch my breath a bit more during those long, long days. Sadly, she made it quite apparent that a dummy was not going to cut it. My second was much easier, but even she was never interested. I think if Arty likes his, GO WITH IT!

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    1. i'm sorry that didn't work out for you! we've definitely found the dummy to be a godsend. but i'm sure you found other ways to soothe and comfort your little ones, because you're a great mama!

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